Vanishing Twin Syndrome

It is common knowledge that the bond between twins is very tight and strong. This bond tends to be stronger than a parent/child relationship.

If this bond is broken during pregnancy, it is referred to as a vanishing twin or a missing twin.

One out of eight twins born is considered a surviving twin. Now with the number of artificial inseminations, surviving twins have become even more common.

The disappearance of a twin has a deep impact on the surviving fetus. Various survival mechanisms are often developed that are no longer needed as the surviving twin gets older.

 

Below you will find a few characteristics that determine a surviving twin:

 

• You are looking for something and you don't know what. You often change jobs/relationships/places of residence, but it doesn't bring you much satisfaction.

• You feel different from others and you don't know why.

•  You regularly encounter situations in which you have to let go of things or people.

• You feel a deep loneliness and/or sadness.

• You have a strong empathic ability and experience that people do not know your needs.

• You are looking for a soul mate.

• Your relationship with your partner is very intensely connecting and then suddenly there is war and distance.

• You buy many things in twos or threes (doubles/triplets)

• You desire to merge with someone, but you often feel alone/misunderstood in relationships.

• You often feel guilty (even though you have no reason to take the blame)

• You are either very active or totally passive.

• You survive rather than actually live.

• You often do things on your own or through intense collaboration.

• It’s difficult to say good-bye.

• You doubt your right to exist.

• You have many qualities and can hardly choose which one is most important.

• As a man you have a strong feminine side or as a woman you have a strong masculine side.

• It is easy to start all kinds of projects; finishing is another matter.

• It’s difficult to stand up for yourself, or take your own space.

• You need space for yourself. Freedom is important to you.

• Your self-esteem can suddenly disappear even though you know what your qualities are.

• Your inner saboteur can regularly block your inner feeling of what you wish to achieve.

• When you get somewhere, you first scan the faces and the surroundings.

• You talk to yourself regularly.

• You regularly feel you are in second place and that affects you very deeply

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Most people have some of these characteristics, the surviving twin has almost all of them and often in extreme shape.

As part of a triplets, I can say that I recognize all of the above points. 

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Because I understand very well what the surviving twin carries in his backpack and also know that it is not easy to empty this backpack, I have started a program in addition to the individual sessions to go through this entire process. The end goal is to reunite with your Authentic Self and possibly with your disappeared twins (multiple).